Your colleague’s sharp comment keeps replaying in your mind.Two of your students are trapped in a”he said/she said”battle.When you reflect on your emotional reactions,you sometimes get caught up in cycles of negative feelings,which can make you feel even worse.If so,the answer may lie in a skill called”self-distancing”,the ability to take a step back and view yourself more objectively.According to a research,when people adopt self-distancing while discussing a difficult event,they make better sense of their reactions,experience less emotional suffering,and display fewer signs of stress.
But what might self-distancing look like in action? Consider a typical”he said/she said”student conflict where they are each focusing on their own feelings.One is thinking,‘‘I can't believe he did that to me”And another insists.”She really hurt my feelings”However,if you ask them to take the self-distancing,they might step outside of themselves and ask broader questions:”Why was he so hurt in this situation?”or”How did her anger affect him?”
Although this approach may sound too simple to be effective,studies indicate that a change in point of view can have a powerful effect on the way people think,feel,and behave. Here are several different techniques you can try.
First,consider how a thoughtful friend might respond after quietly observing their situation.Besides,avoid using the pronoun”I”.Focus on using third-person pronouns,he,she,they,and they were able to see the stressful event as challenging rather than threatening.Finally,ask yourself,”How would I feel about this one week from now or ten years from now?”This form of mental time travel may be effective because our attention is directed away from our immediate,concrete circumstances.
1.What is self-distancing?
A.Getting stuck in negative emotions.
B.A stressful situation.
C.A study on relieving emotional stress.
D.Reflecting on yourself objectively.
2.Which of the following statement uses the techniques of self-distancing?
A.I’m angry with him.
B.How did these two people get to this point?
C.How I wish I could go back to the past!
D.He grabbed my notes，and then，and then…
3.What is the best title for the passage?
A.Why Self-distancing Matters
B.The Disadvantages of Self-distancing
C.Breaking the Cycle of Negative Reflection
D.Ways to Reflect on Emotional Reactions
Shana,Robyn,and I stood on the high platform near the tops of the rainforest trees.We were wearing heavy helmets on our heads and had thick leather straps around our waists,which made seats that hung from a thick wire overhead.The wire was hung between the platform we stood on and another platform far in the distance.
This was the zip line,an adventure I had sworn I would not do on our family trip to Costa Rica.I was afraid of heights,afraid of falling,and afraid of zipping through the air above the rainforest at 30 miles per hour.Yet here I was,fastened in and ready to go.
“Who goes first?”our guide asked. My sisters exchanged a glance-neither of them stepped forward.I’d been teased for being a”scary cat”ever since I was four when I tripped(绊倒)and fell on an escalator.Even my parents,while relieved by my cautious ways,were worried that I’d miss out on enjoyable activities.No longer willing to let life pass me by,I stepped to the edge of the platform,sat back in the leather seat,and pushed off.Absolute terror filled me as I screamed and zoomed through the trees with my eyes squeezed shut.Before I could totally process what was happening,I landed safely on the second platform.
As my sisters flew in behind me,the guide attached me to the next wire,and I was off again.This time,fear was replaced with excitement,and I was able to look around me as I zipped.There-a toucan(犀鸟)!And was that a sloth(树懒) right at eyelevel?
By the time we had finished all the zip line journeys,I was shouting not with terror but with joy.And to think how close I’d come to missing it all!
1.Why had the writer sworn not to go on the zip lines?
A.She thought she would not see anything.
B.She had a fear of heights.
C.She was afraid of the rainforest animals.
D.She hated wearing the helmet and straps.
2.What made the writer decide to go on the zip lines?
A.The support of his parents. B.The tease of his sisters.
C.The encouragement of his own. D.The order of his guide.
3.How did the writer find the zip line Journey in the end?
A.Risky but rewarding. B.Nothing but frightening.
C.Tiresome and unhappy. D.Joyful but fruitless.
听下面一段独白，回答以下小题。
1.What is the passage mainly about?
A.A visit to Arab. B.The business in Arab. C.The Arabs’ customs.
2.What is an unpleasant behavior for Arabs?
A.Talking business immediately.
B.Having refreshments before talking.
C.Discussing business in front of strangers.
3.What should people do when a meeting is interrupted?
A.Stop talking and leave.
B.Pretend not to hear and goon.
C.Let someone know your displeasure.
4.Why do Arabs rarely say”No”directly?
A.They consider it impolite to a guest.
B.They think it is disrespectful to God.
C.They want to have lots of time to consider.
听下面一段较长对话，回答以下小题。
1.What is the man?
A.An inventor. B.A professor. C.A reporter.
2.Who is Hermione Granger based on?
A.The woman.
B.One of the woman’s best friends.
C.The woman’s favorite teacher.
3.What was beyond the woman’s expectation?
A.The publication of the Harry Potter books.
B.The popularity of the Harry Potter books.
C.The inspiration for the Harry Potter books.
4.How different will the woman’s future books on Harry Potter probably be?
A.Rather exciting. B.More realistic C.Rather scary.
听下面一段较长对话，回答以下小题。
1.What does the man ask the woman to do while he is dialing?
A.Make a shopping list.
B.Arrange the place for the party.
C.Find some fun things for the party.
2.Who won’t come to the party?
A.David. B.Jane. C.David’s girlfriend.
3.What will the man do?
A.Call those boys once more.
B.Go to visit David’s girlfriend.
C.Do shopping with the woman.
听下面一段较长对话，回答以下小题。
1.What do we know about the walking shoes?
A.They’re sold with a pair of socks.
B.They’re soft because of the material.
C.They’re too loose without the inner sole.
2.What is the man unsatisfied with?
A.The shoes polish. B.The original shoelaces. C.The color of the shoes.
