Many of us are quick to blame others for how we feel: “He makes me so mad!" or “She really hurt my feelings. "But did someone really" make me angry "or are we felling the anger in us getting kicked up in response to the way someone behaved towards us？
The difference between the two is in who the responsible party is for the way we feel. If we blame others for our feelings we will eventually feel reasonable at whatever our retaliation（报复）may be，and we will explain that it was their fault，not ours. "They were driving me mad”.
When we blame others for the way we feel we have in fact given power to others for the state of our emotional wellbeing（健康）. The truth is，no one controls our feelings but us. If we are finding that people in our lives really know how to" push our buttons" then we are not doing a good enough job at protecting our " buttons. "We are the ones leaving our buttons out in the open so that other people can" push them. "Ultimately，the switch for our buttons is inside us-not on the outside.
While there are some things in life that are clearly out of our control，like the weather or a flight that's two hours late，how we act and respond to other people's behavior is not among them. Our responses to others are well within our control.
If someone is "making us" so mad，for example，that we get angry，we are not doing enough to learn about what drives our anger and how to properly cope with it. My suggestion is taking time before you get angry. and putting some work into taking an inventory（清单）of the past. An inventory can show you how much of your past experiences influence your feeling reactions in the current moment.
When we finally realize that so much of our present feelings and reactions are driven from within ourselves and our own past experiences，we will be ready to make the changes in our lives that will better secure our buttons so that they are no longer left out in public for everyone to push at will.
1.What result will appear if we blame others for our emotions?
A.We consider others to be correct.
B.We consider ourselves to be correct.
C.We consider we were driving ourselves mad.
D.We consider they were driving themselves mad.
2.What's the author's attitude towards feelings?
A.We should blame others for the way we feel.
B.We should enable others to control our feelings.
C.We should let others know our daily life clearly.
D.We should control personal feelings ourselves.
3.According to the author, which can always be under our control?
A.The weather conditions.
B.The delay of a flight
C.Other people's feelings.
D.Our own behavior.
4.Which proverb best suits the author's advice in Paragraph 5?
A.A burden of one's choice is not felt.
B.A friend is easier lost than found.
C.Think twice before acting.
D.A good beginning is half done.
5.What does the underlined phrase "push our buttons" probably mean in Paragraph3?
A.Force us to do a god job.
B.Make us angry.
C.Take off our buttons.
D.Let us down.
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It wasn’t yet 8:30 am. However, instead of entering my office, I was leaving it. Carrying a plastic shopping bag of my personal things, I moved in a(n)____way to my car, and drove home crying. I had just been____
For following weeks, I was troubled by the____of that sudden lay-off: What about the people who would be____by my abandoned projects? Would I have a chance to get another job?____with anxiety, shame and sudden outbursts of tears, I felt completely____“What should I do next?” I asked myself.
One day, over dinner with my good friend Sophia in a restaurant, I told her about my____, “Being fired came as a____I am not a bad person. I don’t know____it happened to me. In fact, I was so hard-working and____to my company”. After listening to my words, she____me, “Never be so depressed. Being fired isn’t the same thing as being bad. There are lots of____that we cannot escape in life, and we have to face them____and find solutions. I think you should make some changes to help you____this issue. Unemployment just means a new start.” Her words gave me a lot of confidence and strength, which____me to take action to change the bad situation. I had a firm belief that everything would hopefully____fine.
Then a long journey of applying for new jobs began. In addition, I made a decision — starting to____the people who helped me either with the emotional support of my unemployment or in my search for a new job. I would send each of them a thank-you card. Sophia had helped me a lot, and she got my first card.
Expressing gratitude is the best thing that I have done to____my negative thoughts and move forward. Fortunately, I have got a(n)____job that fits my skills and interests. No matter what happens in the future, I will____this wonderful decision and show more people my thanks.
1.A.relaxing B.confident C.unsteady D.humorous
2.A.adopted B.fired C.cheated D.fined
3.A.shadow B.guidance C.standard D.background
4.A.promoted B.trusted C.refused D.affected
5.A.Agreeing B.Connecting C.Struggling D.Dealing
6.A.positive B.confused C.confident D.serious
7.A.promises B.goals C.feelings D.needs
8.A.occasion B.threat C.present D.shock
9.A.why B.when C.whether D.where
10.A.attractive B.occupied C.aware D.faithful
11.A.blamed B.greeted C.encouraged D.announced
12.A.challenges B.opportunities C.arguments D.responsibilities
13.A.practically B.bravely C.secretly D.excitedly
14.A.rely on B.look into C.give up D.deal with
15.A.drove B.ordered C.forbade D.expected
16.A.set about B.turn out C.result from D.hold back
17.A.thank B.entertain C.understand D.help
18.A.explain B.remove C.suspect D.accept
19.A.difficult B.ridiculous C.satisfying D.embarrassing
20.A.research B.replace C.select D.continue
He ______ writing the paper now. He hadn’t written a single word when I left him ten minutes ago.
A.shouldn’t be B.can’t have finished
C.can’t be D.mustn’t have finished
American fathers ______ more than twice the amount of time with their children than they used to in years past, due to a sweeping new trend called "unemployment".
A.were spending B.spent C.are spending D.have spent
Many companies don’t realize ____ important the customers are, which is why they lose their customers unconsciously.
A.what B.whether C.how D.which
Friends have to learn to _____ annoying habits and to bear differences of opinion．
A.put up with B.come up with
C.keep up with D.end up with
