When people express themselves, they want at least two things: they’ve been heard and they’ve been understood. As a good listener, some steps are useful toward good listening.
The first step is cooperating(合作). How does a person know that you’re listening and understanding? In fact, it’s through the way you look and sound while he is talking. You may help him to fully express his thoughts and feelings. You do this by nodding your head in agreement, making certain sounds of understanding.
When the person begins to repeat what’s been said, it’s a signal of step two: turning back. It means that you repeat back some words he is using, sending a clear signal that you’re listening carefully and that you think what he is saying is important.
Having heard what he has to say, the next step is clarifying(变得明晰). At this point, you start to gather information about what is being expressed. Ask some open-ended questions, which will allow you to find out what he wants to be satisfied with.
The fourth step is to summarize(概括) what you’ve heard. This allows you to make sure that both you and the person are on the same page. When you do this, two things happen. First, if you’ve missed something, he can fill in the details. Second, you’ve shown that you’re making an effort to understand completely. This helps get cooperation from him.
After you have listened carefully, you will make sure that his thoughts have been fully voiced. Ask if he feels understood.
When enough sincere listening, questioning, and remembering are brought together, understanding is usually achieved and it’s not so difficult for you to cooperate with him.
Topic | 1. to be a good listener |
Reason | People hope they have been heard and2. when they express themselves. |
3. steps on listening | Nod in agreement and make some sounds of understanding while a person is speaking. Repeat some words that you have heard. Ask some open-ended questions and find out his purpose/aim Try to summarize what the person has said Make sure that the person feels 4. from expressing his thoughts. |
Conclusion | A person will be 5. to cooperate with if understanding is achieved. |
1. What wild animals are ______________________ (消失得更快) than giant pandas?
2.The leaders _____________________ (才发现) the silly mistakes until the end of 2013.
3. Who ______________________ (被挑选) to play the lead role in the film Lost in Thailand?
4. Mum, how many parts will the cake _______________________(分成)?
5.If we ___________________ (不保护) these rare animals, they will die out.
hear from; be in service; cover live; break into; take place; get angry with each other; get along with; take part in; try one’s best; choose; |
1.________ you ________________ the company about your new job recently?
2.Think about your situation. Do you have other ____________________ but to accept our plan?
3.The parents _________________________ after learning their son stayed in the net bar the whole night.
4.It is said that the trial(审判) of Bo Xilai _________________________ earlier this year.
5. In the world’s large cities such as New York, most murders ____________________ in poor areas.
6. ______________________ all his neighbors seems impossible to him, though he knows its importance.
7.Will China refuse ________________________ the G7 meeting to be held in Washington next month?
8.How long had the old bus station _____________________ before it was changed into a park?
9._______________________ computer systems of organizations like FBI led to his arrest.
10. ---- Where are the children?
---- They are in the study. They _______________________ to do better in the final exams.
Louis Braille, a Frenchman, couldn’t see anything when he was three years old. At the age of ten, he went to a special school for b_______1. children. The teacher there taught him a new way of reading by touching raised letters(突出的字母) on the paper. H______2., it was a slow way to read, and it did not help the blind to write. In 1819, a French soldier i__________ 3.a special writing called “night writing”. Night writing used twelve dots(小圆点). In 1824, Braille k__4. about the night writing and began to change it for the blind to use. He didn’t use 12 dots but 6 dots. Letters are made with one or m______5. dots. In this way, Braille was able to use the six dots for all twenty-six letters. Now people call this writing the “Braille Writing” and people first used it in 1829. His work helped the blind see the world through their fingers.
1.—How often did you use to play football with your classmates?
— (两次) a week.
2.Now more and more (图书馆) will be open for free to local people in the coming years.
3.Everyone (除了) Adam went to the concert yesterday. He was badly ill.
4. Can you (借给) me your bike? I want to take a bicycle ride around the town.
5.Lucy is (着迷的) about listening to music. She has lots of CDs.
Once upon a time, some visitors went to an island for a vacation, and each was having a good time. Suddenly a warning of a strong storm came to them, so all rushed to their boats. Yet, Love did not wish to run away quickly. There was so much to do. But as the clouds got darker, Love realized it was time to leave. But there was no boat to go into. Love looked around with hope.
Just then Richness was passing by in a great large boat. Love shouted, “Richness, can you take me with you? Richness answered, “No, I can’t. There is a lot of gold in my boat. There is no place here for you.”
Love decided to ask Vanity(虚荣) for help who was also passing by in a beautiful boat. But Vanity said with a cold voice, “No, I can’t take you with me. My boat will get dirty with your wet feet.”
Sadness passed by after some time. Again, Love asked for help. But it was useless. “No, I can’t take you with me. I am so sad. I want to be alone.”
When Happiness passed by a few minutes later, Love again called for help. But Happiness was so happy that he didn’t hear Love calling to him.
Love was becoming restless and hopeless. Just then somebody called out, “Come, Love! I will take you with me.” Love did not know who was so kind, but jumped into the boat happily.
After getting off the boat, Love met Knowledge. Love asked, “Knowledge, do you know who was so kind to give me a lift when no one else wished to help?”
Knowledge smiled, “Oh, that was Time.”
“Time?” asked Love. “But why did Time help me?” Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, “Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is.”
1. According to the passage, which one did not go to an island for a vacation?
A. Love. B. Richness.
C. Vanity D. Knowledge
2. Other visitors passed by in their boats one by one. Which is the right order according to the passage?
A. Richness→Vanity→Sadness→Happiness→Time
B. Richness→Happiness→Sadness→Vanity→Time
C. Time→Richness→Vanity→Sadness→Happiness
D. Richness→Happiness→Vanity →Sadness→Time
3. What can we learn from the passage?
A. When we are rich, we may pay more attention to Love.
B. All the feelings are important in our life except Love.
C. As time goes by, we can realize the importance of Love.
D. When we are happy and sad, we shouldn’t remember Love.
