Friends are people who share similar values with us. And keeping strong friendships is an important part in most people's life. Friendships can help us fight against loneliness, get rid of anxiety(焦虑), and have better physical health. But it's hard to keep a friendship.
According to a research led by Megan Robbins, a professor at the University of California, the key to keeping a friendship is to use "we-talk". The researchers examined 30 different studies on over 5,000 people. This largestever analysis (分析) of "we-talk" suggested that the more we use the words "we" and "us", the happier and healthier relationships will be. The word "we" makes people much closer to each other. "It offers a deep understanding on whether people regard themselves as individuals (个体) or as a part of the whole. The use of words is a window that we can know about what people are thinking and feeling without asking themselves," Robbins said. Her research also found that "we-talk" was helpful to solve conflicts(冲突). It may bring about positive(正面的) thinking on the opposite side.
Comparing with "we-talk", there is "I-talk", which refers to the use of "I", "me", and "mine" more often when writing or speaking. Earlier, researchers from the University of Arizona, the US, examined a set of data that came from 4,700 people. They found that too much "I-talk" showed that someone was feeling stressed or experiencing negative feelings.
The two studies suggested that too much "I-talk" may make us feel bad. But "we-talk" may encourage us to be more positive. So next time when you're talking to a friend, try using more "we-talk". You may find yourself feeling more positive and the effects it has on your friend may be positive as well.
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1.Friends are those who have ____________ with us.
2.An analysis of "we-talk" suggests that the more we use the words "we" and "us", ____________ the relationships will be.
3.What are the two ways of talking mentioned in the passage?
__________________________________
4.__________________________________
5.__________________________________
I think the most basic and powerful way to connect with another person is to listen. Perhaps, the most important thing we ever give each other is our ______, and especially if it's given from our hearts.
When people are talking, there is no need to do anything but ______ them and take them in ______ what they are saying. In most cases, listening is more ______ than understanding. It has taken me a long time to believe in the ______ of simple saying "I'm so sorry." when someone is in pain.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often interrupted(打断) her to tell her that they once had something just like what happened to her. ______ she stopped talking to most people. When we interrupt what someone is saying ______ let him or her know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves.
I have even learned to respond to someone's crying by just listening to him or her. In the old days, I used to reach for the tissue (纸巾). I ______ that passing a person a tissue might be just another way to calm them down and take them out of their experiences of sadness. When they have cried all they need to cry, they ______ me there with them.
I used to think that people listened only when they did not know the answer. But now I know that a ______ act often has more power to comfort others than words.
1.A.attention B.deal C.mind D.action
2.A.lose B.receive C.get D.bring
3.A.Bring out B.Hang out C.Lead to D.Listen to
4.A.interesting B.terrible C.important D.difficult
5.A.effort B.power C.treasure D.service
6.A.Usually B.Properly C.Freely D.Finally
7.A.for B.at C.to D.in
8.A.remembered B.supposed C.realized D.organized
9.A.think B.find C.share D.stay
10.A.relaxing B.dangerous C.happy D.loving
Why are you still here? The concert has already been________.
A.adapted B.doubted C.accepted D.canceled
We were classmates at________ school. We went to Grade 4 together.
A.primary B.common C.ancient D.present
The soldier soon ________. He must be very tired.
A.died out B.fell asleep C.got up D.turned down
(2019邢台市桥东区二模)There is no doubt________ Hong Kong and Macao belong to China.
A.which B.if C.that D.whether
