If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.
If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior.
Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
These pseudo(虚假的)-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not turn to these pseudo-apologies.
But even when presented with examples of true regret, children still need help to become aware of the difficulties of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling(糟蹋) other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking away the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.
1.If a mother adds “but” to an apology,________.
A.the child may find the apology easier to accept |
B.the child may feel that he should apologize to her mother |
C.she does not realize that the child has been hurt |
D.she doesn’t feel that she should have apologized |
2.According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means”_______”
A.You have good reason to get upset |
B.I apologize for hurting your feelings |
C.I’m wrong for making you upset |
D.I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame |
3.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry______.
A.their ages should be taken into consideration |
B.parents should be patient and tolerant |
C.parents need to set them a good example |
D.the difficulties involved should be ignored |
4.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _________.
A.not necessary among family members |
B.a sign of social progress |
C.not as simple as it seems |
D.a matter calling for immediate attention |
As the pace(步速) of life continues to increase , we are fast losing the art of relaxation. Once you are in the habit of rushing through lift, being on the go from morning till night, it is hard to slow down. But relaxation is completely necessary for a healthy mind and body.
Stress is an natural part of everyday lift and there is no way to avoid it. In fact , it is not the bad thing it is often supposed to be. A certain amount of stress is vital to provide motivation and give purpose to life. It is only when the stress gets out of control that it can lead to poor performance and ill health.
The amount of stress a person can withstand(忍受) depends very much on the individual. Some people are not afraid of stress, and such characters are obviously prime material for managerial responsibilities. Others lose heart at the first signs of unusual difficulties. When exposed to stress, in whatever form, we react both chemically and physically. In fact we make choice between "fight" or "flight" and in more primitive days the choice made the difference between life or death. The crises(危机)we meet today are unlikely to be so extreme, but however little the stress, it involves the same response. It is when such a reaction lasts long, through continued exposure to stress, that health becomes endangered. Such serious conditions as high blood pressure and heart disease have established(确定的)links with stress. Since we cannot remove stress from our lives (it would be unwise to do so even if we could), we need to find ways to deal with it.
1.According to the writer, the most important character for a good manager is his ________.
A.not fearing stress |
B.knowing the art of relaxation |
C.high sense of responsibility |
D.having control over performance |
2.Which of the following statements is true, according to the passage?
A.We can find some ways to avoid stress |
B.Stress is always harmful to people’s health. |
C.It is easy to change the habit of keeping oneself busy with work. |
D.Different people can withstand different amounts of stress |
3. In the last sentence of the passage, “do so” refers to .
A.“expose ourselves to stress” |
B.“find ways to deal with stress” |
C.“remove stress from our lives” |
D.“establish links between diseases and stress” |
4. According to the author, the right attitude toward stress is .
A.to avoid it |
B.to try to deal with it |
C.to regard it as a vital motivation |
D.to find some relaxation |
“Where is the bus? Why is it always late?” I asked myself. I was going to be late ___36___ the manager wasn’t going to be pleased. “Thank God, here it is!” The bus came round the corner and I got on. Ten minutes later I was walking into the ___37___ where I work. “Twenty-five past nine. I ___38___ the manager doesn’t notice.” But I was not ___39___.
“Smith!” shouted the manager. “Late again. What’s your ___40___ this time?” “I am afraid the bus was late, Mr. Brown.” “___41___ up earlier tomorrow! Anyway, go to your place at the counter. We’ll be opening in a few minutes.”
My first customer was a pretty girl wearing a red dress. ___42___ her was a young man of about 25. He seemed very ___43___, and every few seconds he looked towards the main entrance. The girl drew some money and ___44___ about opening an account(帐户). I gave her necessary ___45___ and she went out. ___46___, I noticed a tall man by the door, carrying something ___47___ with brown paper. Turning to my next customer, I was frightened to see a gun sticking out of his coat. The next moment a loud noise ___48___ my ears. Everything went black. I was falling… It seemed to be a long time ___49___ I opened my eyes and I found myself in bed! ___50___ shaking from the memory of this terrible dream, I got dressed and ran out of the house. ___51___, the bus wasn’t on time, and I got to the bank at 9:25.
“Smith!” the manager cried out in a voice like thunder. “___52___ of your excuses! Start work at once!” To my ___53___, the first customer was a girl ___54___ a red dress and behind her stood a man carrying something wrapped in brown paper. The ___55___! Sometimes life is full of coincidences (巧合)!
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In many countries, some scientists are already _______ research in order to produce a cloned human baby.
A.putting up with |
B.coming up with |
C.putting forward |
D.pushing ahead with |
Edward, you play so well, but I you played the piano.
A.don’t know |
B.hadn’t know |
C.didn’t know |
D.haven’t known |
People often have this belief ______ development is bad for the environment, but this does not have to be true.
A.that |
B.which |
C.where |
D.how |