Question

I’ve just got to talk about this problem I’m having with my postman. It all began a year ago, after the birth of his first child. Not wanting to appear rude, I asked him about the baby. The next week, not wanting him to think I had asked out of mere politeness the week before, I asked all about the baby again. Now I can’t break the habit. I freeze whenever I see him coming. The words “How’s the baby?” come out on their own. It holds me up. It holds him up. So why can’t I stop it? The answer is that I want him to like me. Come to think of it, I want everyone to like me.

What about at work? Richard Lawton, a management trainer, warns: “Those managers who are actually liked by most of their staff (员工)are always those who are honest with staff, treating them as human beings and following common politeness like saying hello in the morning.” To explain the point, Richard told the story of the company chairman who especially wanted to be liked. One day, after making one of his employees fired, the employee replied: “If you were that sorry, I wouldn’t be leaving.” The lesson is that if you try too hard to be liked, people won’t like you.

The experts say it all starts in childhood. “If children feel they can only get love from their parents by being good,” says Zelda West-Meads, a marriage adviser, “they develop low self-confidence.” But is there anything wrong in being a giver? Anne Cousins believes there is. “Sometimes giving becomes unhealthy,” she says. “It comes when you do things for others but feel bad about it.”

I am now trying hard to say to people “I feel uncomfortable about saying this, but…” and tell myself “Refusal of a request does not mean Refusal of a person” and I find I can say almost anything to almost anyone.

1.Why does the author ask the postman about his baby?

A. He is interested in the baby.

B. He wants to be always polite to him.

C. He wants to leave a good impression to him.

D. It’s a way to start a chat with great politeness.

2.Managers are more likely to be popular if they ______.

A. help the staff with their problems

B. make sure the staff do not lose their jobs

C. encourage the staff to be polite to each other

D. do not make too much effort to be liked

3.What is the author’s intention of writing this passage?

A. To show how to let others like you more.

B. To encourage people to have more self-confidence.

C. To prove how to create a harmonious atmosphere.

D. To suggest ways of dealing with difficult people.

Answer

1.B

2.D

3.B

【解析】本文是一篇说明文。首先讲述了作者自己极力想给邮递员留下好印象，作者想让所有的人喜欢她。作者的妹妹和公寓管理员也是这样。在工作中，经理越是讨好别人喜爱，反而得不到同事的喜爱。阐述了要建立自信，通过人格魅力，例如诚实、公平对待同事来获得喜爱。

1.细节理解题。根据第一段The answer is that I want him to like me. Come to think of it, I want every one to like me.”可知作者想要邮递员喜爱作者，给邮递员留下好印象，故选B。

2.细节理解题。根据第二段The lesson is that if you try too hard to be liked, people won’t like you.可知如果你刻意让别人喜欢你，反而得不到别人的喜爱，故选D。

3.写作目的题。根据最后一段可知本文主要是为了鼓励人们应该有自信。

名师点睛：

文章细节的理解可以细化为：（1）一一对应型。答案与题目在表达形式和意义上直接吻合，一一对应，一目了然。属于浅层次的阅读试题，分数比例较少。（2）语言转述型。这是一类间接事实细节题，答案与题目在意义上从分运用了词义之间的转述关系，即正确选项是原文有关词语和句子的另类表达。属于中档难度题，分数比例较大。（3）语意理解型。这是一类深层事实细节理解题，答案与题目之间存在着一定的逻辑联系，这种联系需要建立在事实的基础上通过上、下文来进行判断、分析、归纳和整合，才能得出正确答案。属于较高难度的事实细节题。（4）是非辨别型。这是一类综合事实细节题，出题形式常常是“三正一误”(三项正确，只有一项不符合原文内容)或“三误一正”（三项错误，只有一项符合原文内容)。（5）事实排序型。这是一类运用多项事实进行排序的事实细节题，要求根据动作发生的先后顺序、时间顺序或者句子之间的逻辑关系，找出时间发生，发展的正确顺序。

此题中的前两题都属于细节理解题。

第一题属于（2）语言转述型。这是一类间接事实细节题，答案与题目在意义上从分运用了词义之间的转述关系，即正确选项是原文有关词语和句子的另类表达。属于中档难度题，分数比例较大。此题定位信息为第一段The answer is that I want him to like me. Come to think of it, I want every one to like me.”意为希望给别人留下好印象。所以答案为C. He wants to leave a good impression to him.

第二题属于一一对应型。答案与题目在表达形式和意义上直接吻合，一一对应，一目了然。属于浅层次的阅读试题。此题定位信息为第二段The lesson is that if you try too hard to be liked, people won’t like you.可知如果你刻意让别人喜欢你，反而得不到别人的喜爱，故选D。