What to Do when Someone Doesn’t Like You
When someone tells me, “I don’t care if people like me,” they are showing me the emotional wall they use to block the hurt of rejection.
As humans are social animals, all of us care if people like us. Based on the need for social connections, your reactions to rejection and negative judgment can range from minor hurt to breakouts of depression. 1.
The first step to handle a negative situation is to recognize your reaction. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?”. 2. Any betrayal (背叛) or embarrassment in your heart? Identify what feeling has shown up in your body, so you can choose what to do next.
3. When you sense yourself being shut out or feel defensive, ask yourself what the person actually means to do to you. Does he truly mean to offend you, or make fun of you? Your brain works very hard to keep you safe, so it will judge a situation threatening if there is any possibility of social harm.
When our brains sense a possible threat, we react as if we were personally attacked. Take a breath to relieve (减轻) the stress. 4.
Finally, if you believe the person doesn’t like you, ask yourself if this matters. 5. If not, what can you do to release your need to be liked by this person? And, what can you do to stay neutral and not return the dislike? The more you can come to accept others as who they are, the more you can move forward with your goals regardless of whether someone likes you or not.
A. If you can, look the person in his eyes.
B. Do you feel any fear or anger in your head?
C. Ask yourself what is true about the situation.
D. Often people do not realize the impact of their words.
E. Will the person’s judgment of you impact your work or life?
F. The ability to let a show of dislike roll off your back is a learned skill.
G. This will help you relax at present and take you out of your trembling mind.
单词拼写
1.I’ve known him for years，and I trust his ________ (判断).
2.The following is a________ (总结) of our conclusions.
3.His mother－in－law is an expert at food science and ________ (营养).
4.To be frank，I will choose teaching as my ________ (职业) in the future.
5.The ________ (大多数人) of the people present at the meeting are in favor of banning smoking.
6.She ________ (最初) thought of donating all of her organs to save others’ lives，but failed to do it because of her serious illness.
Some people think only school children do not agree with their parents. However，it is not true．1.If it’s hard for you to communicate with your parents，don’t worry about it．Here are some advice for you to bridge the generation gap(消除代沟)．
2.Don’t get to your parents when you are angry．Your parents possibly won’t consider your ideas if you are shouting at them. And you can’t express yourself well if you are angry. Go to some place to cool off.
Try to reach a compromise(和解). 3.You can keep your disagreement and try your best to accept each other. Michael’s mother didn’t agree with him about buying a motorcycle. They argued over it. But they finally came to a compromise. Michael bought the motorcycle, but only drove it on certain days.
Of course, your parents might refuse to compromise on something. In these situations, it is especially important to show love and respect to them. 4.
Talk about your values(价值观). The values of your parents are probably different from those of your own. 5. Understanding your values might help them see your purposes in life.
A good relationship with your parents can make you a better and happier person. It is worth having a try.
A. Don’t argue with your parents.
B. Tell your parents what you care about, and why.
C. Make sure you understand why you are unhappy.
D. Showing respect will keep your relationship strong.
E. Perhaps you and your parents disagree on something.
F. Communication is a problem for parents and children of all ages.
G. If you don’t think you can speak to them at the moment, try writing a letter.
There was a boy in India who was sent by his parents to a boarding school(寄宿学校)．Before being sent away this boy was the brightest student in his class．He was at the top in every competition．He was a champion．
But the boy changed after leaving home and attending the boarding school．His grades started dropping．He hated being in a group．He was lonely all the time．And there were especially dark times when he felt like killing himself．All of this was because he felt worthless and that no one loved him．
His parents started worrying about the boy．But they did not know what was wrong with him．So his dad decided to travel to the boarding school and talk with him．
They sat on the bank of the lake near the school．The father started asking him casual questions about his classes, teachers and sports．After some time his dad said, “Do you know son, why I am here today？”
The boy answered back, “To check my grades？”
“No, no, ”his dad replied．“I am here to tell you that you are the most important person for me．I want to see you happy．I don’t care about grades．I care about you．I care about your happiness．YOU ARE MY LIFE．”
These words caused the boy’s eyes to fill with tears．He hugged his dad．They didn’t say anything to each other for a long time．
Now the boy had everything he wanted．He knew there was someone on this earth who cared about him deeply．He meant the world to someone．And today this young man is in college at the top of his class and no one has ever seen him sad！
Thanks a lot, dad．YOU ARE MY LIFE．
1.The father went to the boarding school to ．
A.know if his son was still the best student
B.find out what was wrong with his son
C.ask some questions about his son’s classmates
D.talk with the boy’s teacher about his grades
2.If we say the questions are casual, we mean they are ．
A.unimportant B.strange
C.special D.difficult
3.Why were the boy’s eyes filled with tears when he heard what his father said？
A.Because his father didn’t care about his grades any more．
B.Because he hadn’t had a talk with his father for a long time．
C.Because he had a chance to say his worries．
D.Because he was deeply moved by his father’s words．
4.The passage mainly tells us never to ．
A.send a small boy to a boarding school
B.care too much about a student’s grades
C.pay no attention to the power of caring
D.miss the chance to say thanks to our fathers
根据语境及汉语或首字母提示填写正确的单词
1.Nervously ___________(走近)the table, Son said, “Erm...Dad, can we talk？”
2.You know you can always turn to your dad for a __________(聊天)．
3.You just a___________ I want to be a lawyer, but that’s only because you are a lawyer．
4.People r__________ lawyers and you can have a good i__________．
5.Yes, but I’m not interested in law．I want to work in a studio(录音室), not a c__________．
6.I remember when you were his age, you said that you wanted to be a__________(专业的)soccer player．
7.Yes, and you found the career that __________(适合)your talents．
8.If you go to university and play music at the same time, you will have two o__________ for your future．
9.He __________(忽视)my advice, so he failed in the game．
10.It is __________(认为)that what people do has little effect on the environment．
11.You should r__________ them：after all no one like being looked down upon．
12.Drawing the __________(窗帘)aside, he looked down into the street．
Each of the seven children in our family worked in our father’s store. _______ we worked and watched, we learned that work was about more than _______ and making a sale.
I remembered one lesson. It happened before Christmas. I was in the eighth grade and was working in the evening, cleaning up the _______ section. A little boy, five or six years old, came in. He was wearing a brown worn coat with dirty sleeves. His shoes were scuffed (磨损) and his one shoelace was worn. The little boy looked poor to me—too poor to _______ to buy anything. He looked _______ the toy section, picked up this toy and _______, and carefully put them back.
Dad came down the stairs and walked over to the boy. He _______ and the dimple(酒窝) in his cheek stood out. Dad asked the boy what he could do for him. The boy said he was looking for a Christmas _______ for his brother. I was impressed that Dad treated him with the same _______ as any adult. Dad told him to take his __________ and look around. He did.
After about 20 minutes, the little boy carefully picked up a toy, walked up to my dad and said, “How much for this, mister？”
“How much do you __________？”Dad asked.
The little boy held out his hand and __________ it. His hand was creased (起褶子) with __________ lines of dirt from holding his money too tightly. In his hand __________ only 2 pennies and 27 cents. The price of the toy plane he’d __________ was $3. 98.
“That’ll just __________ it,”Dad said as he __________ the sale. Dad’s reply still __________ in my ears. When the little boy walked out of the store, I didn’t notice the dirty, worn coat or the __________ torn shoelace. What I saw was a happy child with a __________.
1.A.Though B.Since C.As D.After
2.A.survival B.labor C.hardship D.entertainment
3.A.toy B.clothes C.glass D.book
4.A.try B.attempt C.afford D.manage
5.A.for B.around C.up D.over
6.A.that B.one C.it D.this
7.A.wondered B.smiled C.shone D.looked
8.A.tree B.card C.present D.cake
9.A.friendship B.respect C.support D.favor
10.A.effort B.word C.time D.courage
11.A.pay B.earn C.lose D.get
12.A.showed B.opened C.gave D.turned
13.A.long B.straight C.wet D.flat
14.A.lay B.had C.held D.laid
15.A.carried out B.picked out C.pulled out D.put out
16.A.work B.cover C.pay D.take
17.A.made B.produced C.did D.offered
18.A.rings B.stays C.remains D.sounds
19.A.clean B.normal C.single D.double
20.A.hope B.treasure C.package D.choice
