We’ve all experienced peer pressure (同伴压力) . It happens to everybody. However, people have different reactions. Confident people refuse to do things they don’t want to do, but shy and anxious people often give in. It may be because they want to be liked. It may be because they worry that their friends will make fun of them, or perhaps they’re just curious about trying something new. 1.
It’s hard being the only one who says no and the question is: how do you do it? 2.
If you think that missing maths, or smoking, or going somewhere you know your parents wouldn’t like is a bad idea then the answer is simple: don’t do it. It’s your decision, nobody else’s. You don’t need to be aggressive. You don’t need to shout and scream, but you must be confident and you must be firm. You need to say, “No thanks. I don’t want to do that.”
Being on your own against everybody else is very hard, so it can really help to have at least one other peer, or friend, who will say no too. 3.You want friends who will support you when you’re in trouble. You don’t want people who will always agree with the majority. Remember, the most popular people aren’t always the most trustworthy.
4. You can learn a lot from people of your own age. They can teach you great football skills or the best way to do your maths homework. They can recommend music and advise you on fashion. And don’t forget you can tell them things too, and that always feels great. So, find friends who have similar interests. And remember, friendship isn’t about feeling depressed and guilty. 5.
A. It may be because they were all born to be stubborn.
B. Depression and guilt will surely give you peer pressure.
C. Whatever the reason, some people end up doing things the really don’t want to.
D. Of course, peer pressure isn’t completely bad.
E. Choose your friends carefully.
F. Firstly, you must decide what you believe in.
G. It’s about sharing experiences and having fun.
Bad communication, either written, oral, or body language, can send the wrong message in more ways than one. Here are some tips that will improve your communication skills.
1. Stand up straight, and it will show confidence. Smile, and you will seem approachable. Don’t cross your arms over your chest, because this tells people you disapprove. Keep your hands to your side, or if you are sitting, keep them in your lap.
Have confidence when you speak. If you are shy and quiet，project your voice. 2. Never turn your head away from someone when you are speaking to them, because it may show them you don’t care enough to give them your full attention, and it will make it harder for the other person to hear what you are saying.
3. If you always say “I’ve no idea of it”, it will make others feel like you don’t care enough to give a response, or that you aren’t knowledgeable enough to answer. When people ask questions, they want answers. 4. Say something like “I’m in the middle of something, can I get back to you?” or “I don’t want to ill advise you, let me find out for you.”
In written communication, always he clear. Before you send an e-mail, or any type of written communication, read over it at least once, to be sure it makes sense. 5. Written forms of communication can be tricky, because there is no way to put your tone of voice in, so if you feel like you are writing a message on a touchy subject that could he misunderstood, it’s probably best to have a face to face conversation.
A. Have good body language.
B. Listen to the person attentively.
C. Never answer with “I don’t know”.
D. Don’t give the person you are speaking to a quick response.
E. Always look the person in the eye when you are speaking to them.
F. If you aren’t sure it’s clear, have someone else read it before you send it.
G. If someone puts you on the spot, you don’t have to answer them right away.
Few things feel as painful as rejection. Rejection means not being invited to a friend's party. Rejection means having your actions criticized. Rejection means failure when you're trying to sell your idea. Every "no" indicates a door closed to you. 1.
Developing your self-confidence is key. Rejection is simply the reaction or opinion of another person. 2.Never think you are worthless or unlovable. What you should do is make a list of things you have done well or contributions you have made. Review them every day. Fill your nighttime and early morning brain with confidence.
Rejection will enhance （增加）whatever negative things you say to yourself. Even the most successful and confident people feel downhearted when rejected, but most of them never tell themselves how terrible they are. 3.Make sure what you say to yourself builds yourself up instead of tearing yourself down.
4. Instead, they view it as an opportunity to further understand human relationships and inner strength. They avoid the pain of rejection and put rejection into context （情境）.Using rejection to your advantage involves looking on every blow as a learning experience. It also involves learning and growing from negative voice.
5. You can feel the pain as you like, crying or locking yourself in, but don't let it become a long-term visitor. It is wise for you to respond positively and effectively.
A. Rejection is a learning experience.
B. It's powerless without your cooperation.
C. So you should practice positive self-talk.
D. It's normal to feel upset about rejection.
E. Therefore, it is vital to develop effective responses.
F. Rejection is beneficial to those who make full use of it.
G. Those who transform rejection understand it is not about experiencing loss.
Are you crying because you're sad or because something moves you? It's all okay. Some people try to hold back tears because they are scared it makes them seem weak, which is not a wise practice. Don't try to fight the tears, but let them flow freely, 1. .
1. It gives you more support
Sometimes people don't understand how much something is bothering you,2. . Research carried out in 2018 shows that crying is so-called attachment behavior. This means that crying makes people want to comfort you and support you.
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When you cry because something made you sad, the pain is often quite sharp, but you do feel relieved after you cry. That is not that strange. Researchers found out that your body produces oxytocin and endorphins when you cry. These components make people feel good and that's why you experience the sharp pain a little less intense.
3. It is said to cause less stress
4. , but researchers are convinced that crying can lessen stress. When you cry, your tears contain a certain concentration of stress hormones (激素). These stress hormones leave your body when you cry and researchers have developed a theory that you experience less stress after crying because of it.
4. It can improve your sight
Most people know tears as the drops that pour over your cheeks when you cry, but there is also something called 'basal tears'. This is the liquid that is produced when you blink (眨眼).It keeps your eyes watery and allows you to see clearly. Sometimes your eyes can be a bit dry, 5.. When you cry, your eyes will be wet for a little.
A. It really eases the pain
B. It can make you farsighted
C. which makes you see a little less
D. It is no use crying over spilt milk
E. because crying also has four benefits
F. A lot of research still has to be done
G. but they suddenly understand it better when you cry
Those who are good at expressing gratitude often practice the following.
Don't avoid the negative.
Expressing gratitude may generate more optimism. 1. Emmons, a gratitude researcher and psychology professor at the University of California, says that while we often associate gratitude with focusing on the good and avoiding the bad, the key to leading a thankful life is embracing setbacks as part of your overall journey. Emmons suggests recalling a hard time you once experienced. Chances are that you'll start to feel grateful for your current state and overcoming former challenges.
Spend time with loved ones.
2. They make it a habit to spend time with those people who matter most. "Gratitude really helps us connect to other people," Emmons says. "It actually strengthens relationships and relationships are the strongest predictors of happiness and coping with stress."
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There's power in the small, ordinary moments, like catching the subway before the doors close or your pet greeting you happily when you get home. Look for a few things to add to your gratitude list.
Volunteer.
Everyone needs a little help sometimes and grateful people know there's no other way to acknowledge this than by actively doing something about it. In his book, Thanks! Emmons wrote, ” 4.” As research published in BMC Public Health points out, volunteering can result in lower feelings of depression and increased overall well-being.
Love yourself.
Grateful people know that their thankful attitude can also fuel self-compassion. A study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences found that higher levels of gratitude were associated with greater self-esteem. And it's no wonder: When your well-being is a priority, you can't help but feel great. Thankful for being the person that you are5.
A. Know the value of the little things.
B. Since service to others helped them to find their own inner spirituality, they were grateful for the opportunity to serve.
C. Help others appreciate the value of the little things.
D. However, thankful people also don't shy away from the negative.
E. That should be at the top of your gratitude list.
F. Thankful people know they didn't get to where they are by themselves.
G. Gratitude and fitness can go hand-in-hand.
Many people wonder what they can do to become well-rounded and competitive while increasing their rate of success. An often overlooked yet simple way to improve is to increase your knowledge by being a self-starter.
1. Rid yourself of assumptions and convictions so that you can be open and receptive to new information. This at times may even contradict what you have always believed to be true. You will eventually come across information that challenges your worldview. Rather than remaining resting in your comfort zone, use this time to stop, reflect and shed light on these ideas in a way that can develop and expand your vision.
After the mind has been ready, the next step is application. Create a to-learn list just as you would a to-do list. Learning information you can utilize in your daily life is very important to having a continuous desire to further advance your education. 2. Reading a book on automobile repair isn’t the same as physically changing the oil or tire on your car. Reading about art isn’t the same as picking up a brush. If your knowledge can be directly applied in a functional and fun fashion, put it into practice! 3.
Surround yourself with like-minded individuals and try to always take something valuable away from your daily interactions. Many people are professionals in their field and have valuable information and insight to share. 4. Never be too prideful, for each question you don’t ask is a missed opportunity!
Go ahead and challenge yourself today. Commit to expanding your mind, continuing your education and becoming a student of life. 5. Remember to cultivate your mind so it is prepared to expand, blossom and grow. And share your fountain of knowledge.
A. Be willing to expand your mind.
B. Get ready to seek new information.
C. Many people learn by being hands-on.
D. Learning on the go has actually never been easier!
E. If you come across anything that bewilders you, ask them!
F. Skill-based learning, for example, is useless if it isn’t applied.
G. Utilize the world as your classroom, and always come away with a lesson.
