Question

    Family fights are never pleasant. Whether you are dealing with a loud sister or a stubborn mom or dad, the situation can be bad. At least that’s what we have learned to expect.

What if it could be different? What if family fights and conflicts could be turned into opportunities to become closer? What if problems could be solved with everyone walking away feeling more deeply cared for and loved?

Family fighting is, on one level, about power. Someone is telling someone else what to do. In a short moment, emotions can be brought out and the fight is on. You can go down that old road or you can try something different.

In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood. People raise their voices and shout at each other because they’re not being listened to. It’s totally unconscious. You want your mom or dad to listen and understand. But you always seem to forget the person you’re fighting with has the same need to be listened to. So if you can put aside your need for a few minutes, the situation will change quickly. Give the other person some time to express his or her feelings, and you will earn your turn to be listened to.

And while you are listening, you have to listen for the right information. The best way to do this in emotional situations is to forget most of the words because many people can’t express what they are feeling with words alone, especially when they are upset.

But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later because many fights happen at the wrong time. The situation will die down quickly, usually in less than 30 seconds. You can either move on to problem solving or reach an agreement to work on it at a better time.

This way, everyone will feel respected and listened to, even when there is conflict. Emotions will be understood and respected, and it will bring your family closer together.

1.From the first 3 paragraphs, we can conclude that ________.

A.people had better avoid family fights.

B.family members fight to control each other

C.family fights can be changed into something positive

D.when family members fight, it’s worse as they know each other’s weakness

2.In the author’s opinion, the key to dealing with family fights is to ________.

A.satisfy the need to be listened to first

B.make sure that you’re the first to be listened to

C.pay no attention to what others say in emotional situations.

D.stop quarrelling when you feel you are giving orders

3.When the situation gets out of control, it’s best to ________.

A.wait for a suitable moment to speak B.let the other person express their feelings

C.work on a written agreement first D.move on to problem solving

Answer

1.C

2.A

3.A

【解析】

这是一篇说明文。家庭争吵从来不是愉快的。不管你面对的是吵闹的姐姐还是固执的爸爸妈妈，情况都可能很糟糕。至少这是我们已经学会的期望。文章主要为我们提供了一些处理家庭矛盾的建议。

1.推理判断题。根据第二段What if it could be different? What if family fights and conflicts could be turned into opportunities to become closer? What if problems could be solved with everyone walking away feeling more deeply cared for and loved?可知如果它可以是不同的呢？如果家庭矛盾和冲突可以转化为亲近的机会呢？如果问题能够得到解决，每个人离开的时候都能感受到更深切的关怀和爱呢？由此从前三段，我们可以得出结论，家庭争吵可以变成一些积极的事情。故选C。

2.细节理解题。根据第四段第一句In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood.可知在任何斗争中，你都需要被倾听和理解。由此可知，作者认为，处理家庭矛盾的关键是首先要满足倾听的需要。故选A。

3.细节理解题。根据倒数第二段中But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later because many fights happen at the wrong time. The situation will die down quickly, usually in less than 30 seconds.可知但如果情况开始失控，你最好冷静下来，把问题留到以后解决，因为很多争吵都是在错误的时间发生的。这种情况很快就会消失，通常不到30秒。由此可知当情况失控时，最好等待适当的时机再说话。故选A。