Question

    You often find somebody who works around you complaining all the time, don’t you?1. About 70% of Americans say being around nonstop complainers sometimes has a bad influence on them. Luckily, here are 4 tips to help form positive patterns.

1. Self-awareness

When a negative thought pops into your mind, immediately correct it. Instead of telling yourself “That’s a nice shirt, but I can’t afford it,” change the message to “That will look great with my black pants when I can afford it.” 2.

Of course, everyone complains sometimes. But the less frequently you complain, the better you will feel.

2. Distance yourself

3. Excuse yourself and go somewhere quiet, somewhere outdoors in the fresh air. Think of something pleasant before returning. You have to take this seriously because negative people can and will pull you into the quicksand (困境).

3. Don’t try to change complainers

If you find yourself trapped in a group of complainers in a meeting or at a social event, simply choose silence. Let their words bounce (弹起) off you while you think of something else. Attempting to stop the complaining can make you a target. 4. If someone says, “I hate Mondays, weekends are too short,” try to think, “I’m glad I rested up over the weekend, so I’m ready to make some improvement on that big project.”

4. 5.

When someone is shouting at you angrily, throw the responsibility back at them by asking, “So what do you intend to do about it?” In most cases, complainers don’t really want a solution. They just want to speak them out. If you make them aware that they themselves have to find the solutions, they will leave you alone and find someone else to complain to. If so, you will be happy.

A. Find solutions

B. Change responsibility

C. You have got a lot of company.

D. By doing this, it will lead to positive behaviors.

E. But you can redirect the discussion in your own mind.

F. You will never know what they are going to talk about.

G. Whenever possible, escape from negative conversations.

Answer

1.C

2.D

3.G

4.E

5.B

【解析】

本文是一篇议论文。文中告诉读者建立积极心态所需要的四个技巧。

1.联系上文题。根据前面半句You often find somebody who works around you complaining all the time可知，我们身边有很多人一直在抱怨，很多人都和我们一样对于生活有各种各样的不满，在这一方面我们有很多的同伴。故C项（并不是只有你自己遇到这种情况）承接上文意思。故选C。

2.总结归纳题。根据前句"That's a nice shirt，but I can't afford it"，change the message into"That will look great with my black pants when I can afford it".可知，作者把消极的想法变成了积极的想法。D项（通过这样做，它将导致积极行为）是对这一情况的总结。故选D。

3.联系下文题。根据后半句Excuse yourself and go somewhere quiet，somewhere outdoors in the fresh air.以及本段标题Distance yourself可知，当我们遇见别人抱怨的时候，最好走开，不要受到对方的影响。故选G。

4.联系上下文。根据前句Attempting to stop the complaining can make you a target.可知，尝试着阻止抱怨会让你成为别人的目标。再根据后文If someone says, “I hate Mondays, weekends are too short,” try to think, “I’m glad I rested up over the weekend, so I’m ready to make some improvement on that big project.”可知，是转移话题。故我们就不要阻止别人，但是我们可以转换讨论的话题来转移注意力。故E项（但你可以调整自己的话题）承上启下。故选E。

5.小标题选择题。根据本段第一句When someone is shouting at you angrily，throw the responsibility back at them by asking “So what do you intend to do about it?” I可知，当别人对你抱怨的时候，我们要通过询问“你打算怎么办？”把责任抛回去，让他意识到要自己想解决办法。故B项（转移责任）概括本段内容。故选B。