When a friend does something less-than-kind like breaking something precious, embarrassing or excluding kids, it’s understandable that children feel hurt, betrayed, angry or bitter. Some may get even with the friend by doing something worse, which, however, only worsens conflicts. Children may feel caught in the tension between wanting to keep the friend and feeling unable to let go of bitterness about a serious offense.
Reine C. van der Wai and colleagues define forgiveness as the process of controlling the automatic negative thoughts and feelings that spring up when someone upsets us and instead treating that person with kindness. They argue that forgiveness is an essential skill for maintaining long-term friendships.
Parents can play a dominant role in teaching children about forgiveness. Children watch how adults in their lives respond when someone does something unkind. Do they let it go or complain to others or speak directly to the person involved? How long does it take them to get over being mad and how? Sometimes parents instruct children directly about how to react to friends’ mistakes, promoting responses ranging from “Don’t let him walk all over you and fight back!” to “He didn’t mean it.” or “Everyone makes mistakes, depending on the situation and the family values.”
There’s a delicate balance that children need to strike when it comes to forgiveness. On the one hand, passively tolerating and excusing on-going mean behavior definitely isn't healthy. Research shows that long term, repeatedly forgiving people who don’t mend their ways eats away at self-respect. On the other hand, kids need to understand that no one is perfect, so generously and sympathetically forgiving a well-meaning friend is a caring thing to do.
Here are some guidelines that might help your child figure out when it’s time to let it go and forgive someone. If it only happened one time, and it probably won’t happen again, let it go. If your friend didn’t do it on purpose, let it go. If it wasn’t that bad, let it go. If your friend is really sorry, let it go. If it was just a mistake and the friend is usually kind, let it go. If it happened more than a month ago, definitely let it go.
Holding onto hatred is emotionally costly. Sometimes, forgiveness is the right thing to do, not because the other person deserves it, but because we deserve not to be weighed down with bitterness.
1.When a friend does something unfriendly, what is NOT the possible response of the children according to Paragraph 1?
A.They are in a dilemma.
B.They intensify the contradiction.
C.They are upset, disappointed or annoyed.
D.They consider the offence understandable.
2.Children are educated about forgiveness in a family by _______.
A.taking the family values into account
B.speaking directly to the related person
C.observing parents’ reactions to a person doing something unpleasant
D.following the instructions like ignoring a friend or forgiving the mistakes
3.Which of the following is NOT right according to the passage?
A.If your friend didn’t do it deliberately, let it go.
B.Pursuing perfectionism contributes to forgiving a well-intentioned person.
C.Continuously forgiving people who fail to reform will lead to lack of confidence.
D.On some occasions, forgiving the other person is psychologically beneficial for us.
4.What is the attitude of Reine C. van der Wai and colleagues towards forgiveness?
A.Favorable. B.Neutral.
C.Pessimistic. D.Critical.
A person once told me that a quick way to know if you are in the right job is to count the number of good and bad days that you have at your current job. If the good days outweigh the bad days by a long shot, then you are probably in the right place.
While I like that as a quick test, it does not get at the heart of the matter. Is this the right job for me now and in the future? I think it takes time, introspection (内省) and willingness to ask yourself difficult questions to know if you are in the right job.
Here are a few suggested questions that can help you evaluate whether your current job is fit for you. How motivated are you to do the work every day? Are you passionate about the work? Do you feel you can make an impact? Are you learning and growing? Is the work challenging? Do you desire to take on more responsibility or be your manager one day? Do you enjoy working with the people on your team and at your company? Are you in line with the values at the company?
After you go through this exercise of self-reflection, it can be helpful to check in with an advisor or someone that knows you well like a friend or family member. They can offer different perspectives or help remove a blind spot for you.
I have had a few notable experiences where someone has shared feedback that suggested I was not in the right job and should consider other options. It caused an overwhelming sense of loss at first because I was quite comfortable in my role (or at least I thought I was). However, it was several days before I realized it was the best feedback that I had ever gotten because it led me to the next opportunity that was even better than the current one. It turned out that when I was doing my self-reflection and answering the questions above, I was not being honest with myself. Had I only relied on my own thinking, I would have not obtained the opportunities that came next.
1.What question CAN’T help you assess whether you are enjoying the work itself and accomplishing something?
A.Are you passionate about the work?
B.Do you feel you can make an impact?
C.Are you in line with the values at the company?
D.How motivated are you to do the work every day?
2.It can be helpful to tell an advisor or people acquainted with you after you finish 8 important questions of self-reflection because _________.
A.they get to the point of the matter
B.they are resourceful with numerous experiences
C.they can encourage you to figure out the number of sunny days and rainy days
D.they can view things from different angles and remind you of things likely to be neglected
3.What can we infer from the last paragraph?
A.It’s wise to answer questions right away.
B.Prior to the shared feedback, the author received the best suggestion.
C.The author was satisfied initially when others suggested considering other choices.
D.Having considered others’ shared feedback, the author had a better opportunity.
4.Which of the following best describes the author?
A.Open-minded. B.Stubborn.
C.Loyal. D.Knowledgeable.
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At iD Tech, you’ll enjoy a one-of-a-kind summer experience, alongside peers and the teaching staff who share your love for tech. Whether you’re just starting your tech journey or you’re looking for your next challenge, gain a competitive edge for college and beyond with real-world tech skills and portfolio (系列照片) — ready projects.
For college-bound teens, the future starts here
Just imagine — in the near future, you could be an undergraduate at the very same campus where you attended iD Tech!
A taste of independence
For many families, iD Tech serves as an ideal opportunity to grant teens a taste of independence during the summer. In addition to first-class technology education, teens will enjoy:
• The college experience: explore the dining halls, dorms, and prestigious universities
• The opportunity to make small adjustments to projects and create a pre-college portfolio
While activities and excursions (短途旅行) are supervised for safety, our summer staff gives teens the space they need to socialize and build self-confidence in the presence of their peers.
Benefits of camps
Depending on the program and location you choose, you’ll have the opportunity to explore the university, eat in the dining halls, stay overnight in the dorms (learn more about our overnight summer camps), socialize, and discover cool campus hangouts.
Not to mention touring a real app development or video game studio, taking off-campus field trips, competing in gaming tournaments, and building an impressive portfolio (activities vary by program and location).
• Guidance from instructors and professors who are pursuing tech-related careers.
• A variety of activities including gaming tournaments, coffee runs, industry discussions, pick-up games of Ultimate Frisbee, or time to relax over low-key conversation.
If you have additional questions about our teen summer camps or would like a personalized course recommendation, please give our Camp Specialists a call at 1-888-709-8324 or 1-408-871-3700 (international), or contact us here.
1.What is special about iD Tech teen camps and programs?
A.Only teachers majoring in tech are involved in them.
B.They provide teens with the conventional summer experience.
C.They help teens gain the advantage and equip them with practical tech skills.
D.They are only aimed at the teens who want to challenge themselves in terms of tech.
2.All the following strengths of iD Tech teen camps are true EXCEPT .
A.instructions from the teachers devoted to careers concerning tech
B.visiting the university and experiencing the canteen and dormitory
C.trips outside of the campus to see, study or experience certain things
D.various activities like managing a coffee shop and discussing relaxing topics
3.What is the purpose of the passage?
A.To encourage teens to be independent.
B.To advertise iD Tech teen camps and programs.
C.To let teens get ready for the future college life.
D.To help teens learn social skills and build confidence.
假如你是李华。你刚刚参加了学校组织的桑基鱼塘(mulberry dyke fish pond)研学体验活动，感受到农业文化遗产的魅力。兴奋之余，你写了 e-mail 与美国笔友Alan 交流本次研学情况和感受。
要求:
1. 依据下图简介桑基鱼塘原理。
2. 词数 100 左右。
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阅读下面短文，回答文后的 5 个问题，并把答案写在答题卡上。
Humans share Earth with many different kinds of wildlife. However, many of our animal and plant friends may not be around for much longer. According to a recent report on biodiversity, 1 million of Earth's 8 million species (物种) are in danger of extinction(灭绝).
Humans are mainly responsible for the danger. According to the report, the world's population has doubled in the last 50 years. Humans have used over a third of the world's land and 75% of fresh water to grow crops and keep animals. As a result, there are fewer habitats and fewer natural resources available.
Because of human activities, the global rate of species extinction over the past 50 years has been higher than it has averaged over the past 10 million years. The species extinction could have serious effects on ecosystems. We fail to notice when losing one species, then another, then… These are the types of changes we're observing where entire ecosystems break down. These developments lead scientists to believe that there could be a sixth mass extinction, the first to be caused by humans. No one want to experience one mass extinction like the one where the dinosaurs that died out last time.
Aimed at solving the problem, many countries have taken action. For example, China has banned the use of rhino horn and tiger bones, and the ivory trade, reported China Daily. According to Huffpost, there are things that we can do personally to save species. For example, don't buy products made from illegal ( 非法的)wildlife parts and reduce water waste. “Each individual action has an effect and every person can make a difference - through a mass we can turn the tide,” said Claudia Sobrevila, from Global Wildlife Program, according to official website of the WorldBank.
1.What is the present situation of wildlife in the world?
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2.Complete the following chart. (each with two words)
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3.What might be the worst result if the situation continues?
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4.(1) and (2) can make a difference in saving endangered species.(each with one word)
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5.What’s the purpose of the writer?
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阅读下面材料，在空白处填入适当的内容(1 个单词)或括号内单词的正确形式，并将答案写在答题卡上。
Run the Race is an inspirational film about two brothers1.(fight) for what they want-a better life for each other in a challenging environment. Zach, a high school athlete, is to get a scholarship(奖学金), with2. he and his brother David will be able to escape the town where their mother died and their father gave up on them. But then Zach runs into some bad luck 3. puts an end to his sports career and ruins his chance of scholarship. But David has an idea to deal4. the problem so that both he and Zach can reach the goal they desire.
5. (direct) by the famous ex-footballer Tim Tebow, the movie stresses the6. (important) of persistence(毅力) even in the face of great challenges. This echoes the career of the director: Tebow faced many problems in his time in sport. His career had a good start, and he even 7.(become) the leader of his team. But injuries meant that he spent little time actually 8. (play) football.9.(solve) the problem, Tebow moved into minor league baseball and finally turned things around.
“I wanted to be part of something that’s inspirational and10. (impress) to the viewer. I believe Run the Race achieves this,” Tim Tebow said in a statement.
