Question

    Many of us are quick to blame others for how we feel: “He makes me so mad!" or “She really hurt my feelings. "But did someone really" make me angry "or are we felling the anger in us getting kicked up in response to the way someone behaved towards us？

The difference between the two is in who the responsible party is for the way we feel. If we blame others for our feelings we will eventually feel reasonable at whatever our retaliation（报复）may be，and we will explain that it was their fault，not ours. "They were driving me mad”.

When we blame others for the way we feel we have in fact given power to others for the state of our emotional wellbeing（健康）. The truth is，no one controls our feelings but us. If we are finding that people in our lives really know how to" push our buttons" then we are not doing a good enough job at protecting our " buttons. "We are the ones leaving our buttons out in the open so that other people can" push them. "Ultimately，the switch for our buttons is inside us-not on the outside.

While there are some things in life that are clearly out of our control，like the weather or a flight that's two hours late，how we act and respond to other people's behavior is not among them. Our responses to others are well within our control.

If someone is "making us" so mad，for example，that we get angry，we are not doing enough to learn about what drives our anger and how to properly cope with it. My suggestion is taking time before you get angry. and putting some work into taking an inventory（清单）of the past. An inventory can show you how much of your past experiences influence your feeling reactions in the current moment.

When we finally realize that so much of our present feelings and reactions are driven from within ourselves and our own past experiences，we will be ready to make the changes in our lives that will better secure our buttons so that they are no longer left out in public for everyone to push at will.

1.What result will appear if we blame others for our emotions?

A.We consider others to be correct.

B.We consider ourselves to be correct.

C.We consider we were driving ourselves mad.

D.We consider they were driving themselves mad.

2.What's the author's attitude towards feelings?

A.We should blame others for the way we feel.

B.We should enable others to control our feelings.

C.We should let others know our daily life clearly.

D.We should control personal feelings ourselves.

3.According to the author, which can always be under our control?

A.The weather conditions.

B.The delay of a flight

C.Other people's feelings.

D.Our own behavior.

4.Which proverb best suits the author's advice in Paragraph 5?

A.A burden of one's choice is not felt.

B.A friend is easier lost than found.

C.Think twice before acting.

D.A good beginning is half done.

5.What does the underlined phrase "push our buttons" probably mean in Paragraph3?

A.Force us to do a god job.

B.Make us angry.

C.Take off our buttons.

D.Let us down.

Answer

1.B

2.D

3.D

4.C

5.B

【解析】

本文为议论文。我们把自己的愤怒归咎于他人，但是，到底是别人的行为让我们生气，还是我们自己激发了内心的愤怒来回应别人对我们的行为? 事实上，除了我们自己，没有人能控制我们的情绪。

1.细节理解题。根据第二段的If we blame others for our feelings we will eventually feel reasonable at whatever our retaliation（报复）may be，and we will explain that it was their fault，not ours.可知如果我们把自己的情绪归咎于他人，我们将会辩称这是他们的错，不是我们的。选项B符合题意，故选B。

2.推理判断题。根据第三段的The truth is，no one controls our feelings but us.可知，除了我们自己，没有人能控制我们的感情，故选D。

3.细节理解题。根据第四段的While there are some things in life that are clearly out of our control，…，how we act and respond to other people's behavior is not among them. Our responses to others are well within our control.可知，虽然生活中有一些事情是我们无法控制的，我们自己的行为完全在我们的控制之中。故选D。

4.推理判断题。根据第五段My suggestion is taking time before you get angry. and putting some work into taking an inventory（清单）of the past. An inventory can show you how much of your past experiences influence your feeling reactions in the current moment.可知，作者建议在你生气之前先慢下来，花点时间盘点一下过去。选项C. Think twice before acting（三思而后行）符合题意，故选C。

5.词义猜测题。根据第三段The truth is，no one controls our feelings but us. If we are finding that people in our lives really know how to" push our buttons" then we are not doing a good enough job at protecting our " buttons. "可知，除了我们自己，没有人能控制我们的情绪。如果我们发现生活中如果有人激起了我们愤怒的情绪，那是因为我们在保护“情绪”方面做得不够好。因此，"push our buttons"意为“使我们愤怒”，故选B。