Has your adult child ever accused you of being too critical? Not supportive enough? What about disturbing or needy? One way to handle complaints like this is to assume that your child is overly sensitive. There is such a thing as high sensitivity, which can worsen any problems between parents and adult children.
But imagine approaching your child's reactions as if it were a mirror. Instead of it being about your child's opinion of you, what if that feedback could tell you something about your own relationship with yourself?
It makes sense. Your way of being in the world is at its most basic, its most raw, when you interact with your own children, because often, it feels like you're talking to an extension of yourself. On the upside, a self-confident, ambitious mom will encourage her adult child to start the shoot-for-the-stars business he's been talking about. Since she isn't afraid of failure herself, her child can count on her support if he wants to try something that clearly might not work out.
When the child says,"Thank you for supporting me in trying ths new thing,"he's also holding up a mirror that says," You're not afraid to try new things."
But the mirror reflects everything. We don't just have strengths. We're also troubled by doubts, fears, and limitations.
A mom who silently but constantly puts herself down will hardly notice that encouragement and appreciation are lacking in her conversations with her child. She doesn't speak that language; criticism is her native tongue.
Like a speaker of English who doesn't have to stop and wonder which form of a verb to use with a plural subject, the language of criticism rolls off her tongue without her having to think about it. When the child says," You're so critical," he's also holding up a mirror that says, "You're self-critical."
1.The author suggests that from the child's reactions a mother can
A.know herself better
B.understand the child
C.improve her public image
D.promote the family unity
2.What can we infer from the last paragraph?
A.English speakers are bad examples of critical parents.
B.A parent should use good grammar in communication.
C.English speakers are sensitive to the language of criticism.
D.A parent could use critical language without even noticing it.
3.We can conclude that a mother is good with emotions if her daughter says to her
A.You're so honest.
B.I need more privacy.
C.Thank you for letting me cry.
D.I can't be there for you 24 hours.
You're at dinner with your friends on Sunday and the waiter comes up to you and says, “Is this going to be on one check or?”
“Separate!” you all said, barely taking a breath to pause from your conversation.
And why would you? It's pretty usual to pay for your own meal, or to go Dutch.
But it wasn't always the custom to split the check when going out with friends. In fact, in early English society, it was seen as selfish to invite someone out to eat and not pay for their meal. The origins of the phrase "going Dutch" are a little complicated, but Steven Pincus, a historian from the University of Chicago who focuses on early modern Europe, helped us track the complex history of this idiom.
We have to take it back all the way to the 1600s. During the Anglo-Dutch Wars, there were multiple conflicts between the English and the Dutch over trade and naval power. That led to a rise in idioms from the English regarding their enemy, the Dutch: phrases like "Dutch courage," the false courage brought on by alcohol; or "Dutch reckoning," which is a ridiculously high bill on which you've likely been cheated. This was because the English saw the Dutch not only as a trading enemy,but also as a people with questionable morals. The English "claimed that the Dutch had been completely corrupted by their commitment to capitalism." (Funny how tides change, isn't it?)of course, as time changes, so does our sense of self. After all, who wants to pay for their friends' meals all the time? Maybe sometimes it's all right to do like the Dutch do.
1.What did people once do in English history if they dined out with friends?
A.They split the check. B.The inviter paid for the meal.
C.They paid for their meals in turn. D.one of the guests paid for the meal.
2.What does the author say about the idioms containing the word "Dutch”？
A.They show respect to the Dutch. B.They do harm to English language.
C.They are associated with money. D.They mean something dishonorable.
3.The purpose of the text is to explain
A.the English table manners B.the England and Dutch relationship
C.the origin of some English phrases D.the change in English history
假定你是李华，你的好友印度留学生Ajay来信, 邀请你在本周末与他一起去本地的博物馆看印度文化展。请用英语回信，内容包括：
1.感谢邀请；
2.表示对展览的兴趣；
3.确定会面时间和地点。
注意：1.词数100左右；
2.可适当增加细节，以使行文连贯。
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假定英语课上老师要求同桌之间交换修改作文,请你修改你同桌写的以下作文。文中共有10处语言错误，每句中最多有两处。每处错误仅涉及一个单词的增加、删除或修改。
增加：在缺词处加一个漏字符号（^)，并在其下面写出该加的词。
删除:把多余的词用斜线(\)划掉。
修改:在错的词下划一横线，并在该词下面写出修改后的词。
注意：1.每处错误及其修改均仅限一词；
2.只允许修改10处，多者(从第11处起)不计分。
The reasons why I expect to studying in your university are as follows. The first thing that occur to me is its excellence in finance, which I am interested in it as my major. Varieties of strengths allow me the courage apply for admission. Firstly, good social skills and strong organizing ability are that I have acquired in high school thanks for the experience of serving as monitor. I have learned to keep the good balance between work and study. I also get the award of Outstanding Student Leader last year. Besides. I have several hobby，such as dancing, playing erhu , and playing badminton.
I will feel great honored if I can be admitted.
阅读下面短文，在空白处填入1个适当的单词或括号内单词的正确形式。
Around 200 more warriors from ancient China’s Terracotta Army (兵马俑）have been unearthed at the tomb of Emperor Qin Shi Huang. The discovery was made during the 1. (late) round of excavations}（挖掘）of No. 1 Pit in an area covering 400 square meters.
Shen Maosheng, who led the dig, said most of the newly found warriors can be divided into two groups. One group is carrying poles, while 2. other carries bows.
The Terracotta Army, 3. (build) around 2,200 years ago, was intended to protect Emperor Qin Shi Huang in his afterlife. The army, 4. consists of about 130 chariots， over 500 horses，8，000 soldiers，was gathered in three main pits near to the emperor ‘s tomb.
It was first discovered in 1974 by farmers 5. (dig) in northwest China. The tomb is believed6.(cover) around 38 square miles and, along7. the Terracotta Army, contains a large grave of laborers and craftsmen. The8.(construct) is believed to have taken around 30 years to complete.
Archaeologists started a new excavation at No. 1 Pit in 2009. The 200 new warriors 9. (find) as a result of this effort. 10. (scientist) are still working to understand how this vast army was created.
A parent’s hopes for 2030
When 2010 arrived, my son was only a year old—tiny._______，the master of a few basic words, but still mostly the baby we'd _______into the world.
Now my baby has grown into an _______—tall, strong,stout, and smart, a(n) _______ of Akira Kurosawa samurai movies.
A _______from now, in 2030, he will be an adult. I expect the next 10 years to fly by, and be filled with _______. As 2020 begins. I am thinking about the kind of world my son will_______ and experience. I _______ for him, and for all the young people of his age. So I have several _______for the world my son and his generation will live in：
I hope we finally get__________about climate change. Polar ice is melting. The oceans are __________ . The question is __________whether we can stop climate change，but whether we ‘re willing and able to do anything to __________ it.
I’m not sure what a warming planet will__________ for my son's life. I suspect it means he will live in a world where nations and groups __________ limited resources like clean water and food, which means that the danger of climate change won't come just from rising oceans, but from other humans competing for control over what’s __________
The world is always going to be full of __________about how to solve the challenges we face. I hope，too，that my son’s generation learns to __________justice—but to do so with big heart and humility，recognizing our common humanity(人性）even with people who __________ us.
The world of 2030 won’t __________ itself. We are creating it now, so my final wish is that we build the kind of world we actually want our children to live in.
1.A.special B.generous C.intelligent D.dependent
2.A.welcomed B.raised C.grown D.congratulated
3.A.athlete B.adolescent C.artist D.engineer
4.A.director B.author C.lover D.reader
5.A.month B.century C.year D.decade
6.A.questions B.experience C.danger D.change
7.A.create B.notice C.face D.shake
8.A.worry B.sacrifice C.provide D.arrange
9.A.plans B.methods C.hopes D.choices
10.A.particular B.serious C.optimistic D.enthusiastic
11.A.drying B.rising C.growing D.cooling
12.A.for sure B.as usual C.no longer D.till now
13.A.slow B.record C.complete D.oppose
14.A.mean B.obtain C.share D.seek
15.A.pick up B.fight over C.turn down D.take part
16.A.finished B.continued C.started D.left
17.A.aims B.examples C.disagreements D.results
18.A.escape B.express C.seek D.affect
19.A.differ from B.agree with C.refer to D.call for
20.A.blame B.admire C.prove D.build
