Recently, I said something like this to my 13-year-old son: “I've told you a thousand times, just do your work and we can stop fighting. Why don't you just listen to me? I hate having to shout to get you to pay attention.”
Creating a peaceful relationship with our children is a huge test of emotional intelligence-and particularly empathy. In the above example, there are a number of emotional intelligence failures. I was angry, so I was reacting unconsciously instead of responding intentionally. Under my anger was a feeling of powerlessness and fear. I was scared that he is not self-motivated and won't do well. I reacted to the fear by attacking. I was trying to use my force of will to make him obey.
The first rule of emotional intelligence: When people feel pushed, they resist. I was blaming him, interpreting his lack of interest in homework as a kind of personal attack on me and implying that he was making me behave the way that I behaved. I was focused on what I wanted and my perspective.
I'd like to focus on this last point, because it turns out that this lack of perspective-taking—this lack of empathy—is the key to easing parent-child tension.
When I increase empathy and relook at the situation with compassion, I see a different story. Perhaps he was afraid, too. Perhaps he felt powerless, too. Perhaps he's learned the exact same pattern I've modeled: When you're afraid, attack.
That moment of curiosity is the doorway to empathy, and it's a game changer. Empathy is not actually a complex skill. It's a basic part of the social brain. That little pause of curiosity is a way to step out of the stress reaction, and step into being the person we choose to be.
Hopefully, I'll remember to take that all-important pause and ask myself :I wonder what's really going on for him right now.
1.What phenomenon is described in paragraph 1?
A.The parent-child tension. B.The poor emotional intelligence of parents.
C.The peaceful communication. D.The silent resistance from children.
2.What emotional intelligence failures did the writer make in the relationship with his/her son?
A.Lacking a sense of fear. B.Forcing his/her son to give in.
C.Making personal attacks. D.Making intentional responses quickly.
3.What's the best title for the text?
A.Parent-Child Conflicts B.The Test of Emotional Intelligence
C.The Doorway to Empathy D.The Key to Easing Parent-Child Tension
阅读下面材料，根据其内容和所给段落开头语续写两段，使之构成一篇完整的短文。 续写的词数应为150左右。
It was a bright summer’s day. The weather was pleasant, but the wind from the Sahara desert made it extremely hot and wet. A ship stopped off the coast of Africa. The seagulls were circling overhead and crying loudly. In the distance, several dolphins were jumping out of the water at times to create a big white wave.
Just before sunset, the captain came on deck and called out, “Time for a swim.”
Immediately sailors jumped into the water, lowered a canvas mat (帆布垫子) and made it into a swimming pool. They had been waiting for this moment the whole day.
There were two young boys on the ship. They both jumped in, but swam out into the open sea since it was too crowded inside the “pool”. They played and chased (追逐) each other in the open sea. Their fathers cheered them on, often urging one of the boys to prove his bravery over the other.
Suddenly, something gray from a distance was coming closer and closer. Somebody from the deck called out, “Shark! Shark!” The fin was moving faster. Confusion and panic arose, and everyone climbed to safety. Everyone, except the two boys. They had not heard the shouts.
The shark was moving towards the boys.
The captain shouted, “Come back my boys! There is a shark out there!” One of the boys was his son. For the first time in his life, he didn’t know what to do. He could not think clearly. The captain’s face became as white as a sheet. He could feel his legs were shaking so badly that he nearly fell to the ground.
The people on the deck screamed wildly. But the boys could not hear them. They continued to play and to swim, unaware of the danger approaching them fast. Some sailors lowered a boat, jumped into it and attempted to row towards the boys.
Para 1: Just then, one of the boys looked back and saw the large animal he knew too well.
Para 2: Their screams brought the captain back to his senses.
假定你是振华中学学生会主席李华。你校下周将举办“创新周”活动 （Week of Innovation)。你给Professor Smith写一封电子邮件，邀请他在线做一个相关内容的讲座。 内容包括：
1．邀请理由；
2．讲座的时间、时长和内容；
3．期待回复。
注意：
1．词数80左右；
2．可以适当增加细节，以使行文连贯；
3．信的开头已为你写好。
Dear Professor Smith,
I’m writing on behalf of the Students’ Union of Zhenhua High School.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Yours sincerely,
Li Hua
A 10-year-old American girl, Selah Schneiter spent five days climbing El Capitan with the help of her father and a family friend and reached the top of the sheer rock on June 12, 2019. It _______ takes skilled climbers four or five days to complete. She may have been _________ the youngest person to climb one of the most _______ peaks in the world.
Reaching the top “was really _______,” Selah said. “I was also kind of sad because it was over,” she _______.
Selah has been climbing since she could_______and had been asking her parents for years to climb El Capitan. And she spent nine months preparing_______ and mentally.
“Our big motto was ‘How do you eat an elephant?’ ‘Small _______,’” said Selah. And the only thing she feared was the possibility of a big _______ because it would mean “having to go down”.
Her mother stayed home and received daily________ about progress in EI Capitan. She knew her husband would turn back if there were any safety________. “I was worried she would ________ serious injury,” she said. “But by day four I knew they would ________. I’m just really________ of her. Her ________ astonished me.”
1.A.merely B.typically C.entirely D.originally
2.A.elected B.chosen C.confirmed D.ensured
3.A.challenging B.appealing C.endangered D.horrible
4.A.embarrassing B.thrilling C.amusing D.annoying
5.A.repeated B.explained C.added D.reported
6.A.speak B.write C.remember D.count
7.A.busily B.carefully C.hurriedly D.physically
8.A.steps B.mouths C.spoons D.bites
9.A.wildfire B.storm C.drought D.flood
10.A.newspapers B.donations C.updates D.treatment
11.A.concerns B.checks C.records D.equipment
12.A.treat B.repair C.avoid D.risk
13.A.pass B.fail C.finish D.end
14.A.ashamed B.afraid C.fond D.proud
15.A.intelligence B.ambition C.perseverance D.contribution
How to Make a Difference to the World
Many people believe that they don’t have what it takes to make a difference to the world. They believe only people like Mother Teresa, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein and Bill Gates are able to do so.1.The following is a guide as to how small people like us can make a difference to the world.
1．It need not be an enormous task.
2.In this case, you already have what it takes to make the world a better place.
Making a difference to the world may seem like an enormous task, but it is in fact the collective effort of everyone to make small contributions. The size of the contribution is not what matters most. The key here is to have the heart to do it.
2．Start now.
There is no one best time to start to make a difference to the world. You don’t need to wait till you have the time to share some love; you don’t have to wait till you earn more money to share a piece of bread. Little efforts count. 3.
3． 4.
As the saying goes, “Give a man a fish; you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.” The good that we seek to do will make more of a difference when there is a long-lasting effect rather than a temporary effect. 5. And when more people receive education, they will in turn provide more value to the world.
A.For example, building a school will benefit many people for years to come.
B.Nobody can do everything, but everyone can do something.
C.Seek to make a long-lasting effect.
D.You can start making small contributions today.
E.If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.
F.The truth is, every one of us can make it in our own unique way.
G.Stop complaining and do something.
Is there a “success personality”—some winning combination of qualities that leads almost essentially to achievement? If so, exactly what is that secret success formula (公式), and can anyone develop it?
At the Gallop Organization we recently focused in depth on success, digging into the attitudes of 1500 brilliant people selected at random (随机) from Who’s Who in America. Our research finds out a number of qualities that occur regularly among top achievers. Here is one of the most important, that is, common sense.
Common sense is the most popular quality shared by the top achievers. Seventy-nine percent award themselves a top score in this quality. And 61 percent say that common sense was very important in contributing to their success.
To most, common sense means the ability to present sound, practical judgments on everyday affairs. To do this, one has to sweep aside extra ideas and get right to the heart of what matters. A Texas oil and gas businessman puts it this way: “The key ability for success is simplifying. In conduction of meeting and dealing with industry, reducing a complex problem to the simplest term is highly important.”
Is common sense a quality a person is born with, or can you do something to increase it? The oil man’s answer is that common sense can definitely be developed. He attributes (归咎) his to learning how to debate in school. Another way to increase your store of common sense is to observe it in others, learning from their and your own mistakes.
Besides common sense, there are many other factors that influence success: knowing your field, self-reliance, intelligence, the ability to get things done, leadership, creativity, relationships with others, and of course, luck. But common sense stands out. If you develop these qualities, you’ll succeed. And you might even find yourself listed in Who’s Who someday.
1.Roughly how many people in the survey listed common sense as the most important quality?
A.80. B.60. C.1200. D.900.
2.In paragraph 4, the example of the oil and gas businessman is used to prove_______.
A.common sense can be judged B.common sense means simplifying
C.common sense can be developed D.common sense is quite complex
3.What do we know about common sense?
A.It’s rooted in common people. B.It is a side effect of mistakes.
C.It is taught by our parents. D.It can be trained by ourselves.
4.What is the best title of the passage?
A.Common Sense B.The Success Personality
C.Personal Qualities D.A Popular Formula
