Question

Just listen

    I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our  1, and especially if it’s given from the  2. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but  3them. Just take them   4. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than  5it.

One of my patients told me that when she  6to tell her story, people often  7to tell her that they had once had something just like that happen to her. Subtly her pain became a story about themselves.  8she stopped talking to most people. It was just too  9. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the  10of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.

I have ever learned to  11to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾)  12I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them  13, to take them out of their  14of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there  15them.

　　This  16thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been  17since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too  18to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more  19to connect than the most well-intentioned  20.

1.A．introduction     B．instruction    C．attention      D．relaxation

2.A．head             B．memory         C．mind           D．heart

3.A．talk to          B．listen to      C．object to      D．stick to

4.A．in               B．up             C．off            D．away

5.A．denying          B．remembering    C．questioning    D．understanding

6.A．managed          B．tried          C．hoped          D．expected

7.A．encouraged       B．interrupted    C．discouraged    D．urged

8.A．Eventually       B．Immediately    C．Completely     D．Especially

9.A．impolite         B．meaningless    C．lonely         D．selfish

10.A．middle          B．focus          C．center         D．choice

11.A．respond         B．compare        C．link           D．regret

12.A．unless          B．if             C．until          D．when

13.A．down            B．away           C．in             D．off

14.A．experiment      B．mixture        C．judgment       D．experience

15.A．with            B．against        C．for            D．among

16.A．complex         B．simple         C．complicated    D．single

17.A．mentioned       B．published      C．taught         D．proved

18.A．shy             B．greedy         C．active         D．proud

19.A．strength        B．energy         C．power          D．force

20.A．gestures        B．praise         C．criticism      D．words

Answer

1.C

2.D

3.B

4.A

5.D  

6.B

7.B

8.A

9.C

10.B   

11.A

12.C

13.A

14.D

15.A    

16.B

17.C

18.A

19.C

20.D